Some people walk around with not just baggage but a suitcase filled with trouble, trauma, bitterness and regret. There are so filled with woe and worry that Erykah Badu’s song Bag Lady is on repeat blasting away in the CD player of their minds. They can’t walk straight, their perpetually bent at the waist and don’t know how to walk with their heads held high. They’re letting the weight of their troubles hold them down. For the Hang’em Low and Hang’me High sistahs on the verge of a high building leap, I have some advice for you. It’s Biblical so go ahead and get out your tambourine and be prepared to bang it and shout Amen when the message reaches you. Wait for it. Wait for it.…Okay here we go.
Like the old children’s educational program Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood, the message of the day is this: Put it in the Basket. In church a pastor said that what people do about their problems is that they pray about it and ask God deliver them but then spend years trying to deliver themselves. He said if we want release, redemption and peace then we have to surrender all our burdens and troubles to God completely. To illustrate his point he told the story of Jochebed and her son Moses. When the new mother heard that the Egyptians were coming to kill all the first-born sons of all the households, she prayed for deliverance and an answer. What her prayers revealed was that the only solution she had was to put her newborn son Moses in a fragile wicker basket and float him down the Nile unprotected. Confronted with a crisis and the emotional trauma associated with her decision she put her troubles in God’s hands and trusted that he would see her through and provide a way out. She put her baby—her troubles — in the basket and let go. Like our Biblical sister we have to approach the past the same way. We have to confess our pain to the almighty, pray for deliverance, forgive ourselves for whatever we have been beating ourselves up about and then Put it in the Basket. Let the regrets float away from you with the knowledge that all will be well. Let it go. Release it to the current, the breeze and the almighty and never think of it again. It’s dead. Killed, assassinated or drowned. You must kill the problem or confront it. If like most women you’re having man trouble, for example a cheating spouse, then the same rule applies. You have two choices only. You either confront your husband with the information with knowledge that the relationship may come to an end or you release it by forgiving him. In doing this you’re letting all the mistakes he made with his infidelities go. If you choose this option you can’t dwell, you can’t pine or have regrets. The affair is done and you’re done thinking about it. Choose. This applies to ever situation that has had a negative impact on how you live your life. Choosing to confront your problems is an act of bravery and boldness that not everyone may be ready for. If you choose to release the hurt and leave it in God’s hands then you must remember to put it in the basket. Let go. Forgive and forget and walk straight with your head facing in only one direction. Forward. Hold your head high and the next time a problem comes up that you can’t solve, pray and while you’re waiting for an answer, stay permanently away from high buildings with open windows.